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October 28, 2007 Zinta rated it really liked it

I imagine near readers of Mira Kirshenbaum's "Too Proficient to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" are leaning towards the going. Almost of us tend not to mess with the good, or spend time analyzing why we feel bliss; rather we seek out deeper agreement merely when something hurts. Human nature, I suppose. Accept notice only when life becomes a pain. But equally I read Kirshenbaum's like shooting fish in a barrel to absorb guide on fencesitting relationships, I realized this is a good read even for the best of relationships. Even for those curr I imagine most readers of Mira Kirshenbaum'southward "Also Proficient to Exit, Besides Bad to Stay" are leaning towards the going. About of u.s. tend not to mess with the good, or spend time analyzing why we feel bliss; rather nosotros seek out deeper understanding just when something hurts. Human nature, I suppose. Take notice only when life becomes a pain. But equally I read Kirshenbaum's easy to absorb guide on fencesitting relationships, I realized this is a good read even for the best of relationships. Even for those currently between relationships. Why not gain understanding every bit a preventative measure and avoid the iffy relationship entirely?

Kirshenbaum'south book uses a series of diagnostic questions to ascertain if a human relationship weighs more heavily on the side of staying or leaving. Nonetheless, even as she encourages insights, Kirshenbaum, a trained psychotherapist who offers relationship counseling in Boston, is careful to remain in neutral territory, making no difficult and fast judgments. A practiced therapist, later all, doesn't brand decisions for y'all, or fifty-fifty give advice, as much as she offers guidelines and helps you lot find the answers for yourself, the correct ones for you. Kirshenbaum stays on the upwards and upward throughout. Even when a diagnostic appears to point to a major Get! she gently states: your situation may be different. Fencesitting? Nah. While we are all the aforementioned, every bit human being beings, we are also all unique, and our relationships especially and so. Take with grain of salt, then, and a recommendation to talk to a therapist one on one if truly stuck.

That said, I enjoyed this book and found myself recommending it to several others, regardless of their relationship status quo. The diagnostic questions are expert ones. They lead to a good, long look in the mirror, a reassessing of one's ain emotional well being, and gauging that one is in, or out, of a relationship for all the right and good for you reasons. And, if you are in a proficient relationship, the many aye's to Kirshenbaum's questions tin can rejuvenate any fencesitter, giving new appreciation for maybe what was pretty darn good all along. It's always overnice to know y'all're doing just fine.

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Mar 04, 2008 Rebecca rated it liked it

You'll still be dislocated as hell, but at least y'all will feel normal. State of affairs afterward state of affairs, I could relate to. You'll withal be dislocated equally hell, but at least you will feel normal. Situation after state of affairs, I could relate to. ...more

Feb 17, 2011 Jeff Poole rated it information technology was astonishing

The premise of this book is that trying to weigh the options of leaving or staying in a relationship is a losing game...but it's as well what most of the states do when we experience uncertain about the relationship we are in. A relationship can feel proficient one mean solar day and bad the next, so it is almost impossible to counterbalance the practiced against the bad.

Instead, this book takes the approach of asking a series of questions. Some questions focus on what we might recollect of as minimum qualities for a relationship: When the relat

The premise of this volume is that trying to weigh the options of leaving or staying in a relationship is a losing game...merely it'southward also what about of united states of america do when nosotros feel uncertain well-nigh the relationship we are in. A relationship tin can feel skillful 1 day and bad the next, so it is almost impossible to counterbalance the good against the bad.

Instead, this book takes the approach of request a series of questions. Some questions focus on what we might think of as minimum qualities for a relationship: When the relationship was at it's best, was it really very good? Does your relationship back up your having fun together?

Some questions focus on qualities that make a human relationship a positive experience: Do you have an unique sexual attraction to your partner? Is in that location a demonstrated chapters and mechanism for genuine forgiveness in your human relationship?

A few questions focus on signs that you've made upwardly your mind, just just haven't realized it notwithstanding: If God give yous permission to exit the human relationship, would you be relieved? Have you already made a concrete commitment to pursue a course of action or lifestyle that definately excludes your partner?

The majority of question focus on "deal-breakers", or characteristics that predict an unhappy relationship: Has there been more than one incident of physical violence in your relationship? Practice y'all have a basic, recurring, never-completely-going-abroad feeling of humiliation or invisibility in your human relationship? Have you gotten to the indicate, when your partner says something, that y'all normally feel it's more likely that they are lying than they are telling the truth?

A relationship where yous feel demeaned, where there is no trust, or where there is a abiding threat of physical violence should exist left, regardless of the good things it has going for it. It'southward piece of cake to convince yourself that the skillful offsets the bad, but some things are simply too bad to put upwards with, and significantly predict unhappiness.

On the other hand, if 1 has a relationship where they feel supported, they can trust their partner, where both parties are attracted to each other and relish touching each other, and they think their partner is truly a adept person, it is probable that the bad parts in the human relationship can be overcome and that the good is enough to make the relationship worth staying in.

I constitute this book exceptionally helpful for me when resolving my feelings about my marriage. Like nigh relationships, there was both good and bad, and trying to make up one's mind if it was more expert or bad was driving me insane. This book allowed me to actually evaluate the adept and bad parts and give me the confidence to brand a decision with very little questioning of it later. The fact that a book gave me the confidence I couldn't get from friends, family, or therapists, was actually impressive. I highly recommend it for anyone suffering from indecision about a relationship.

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If u can relate to the title and then this is a must read. I read information technology in 3 days. While i left the book however feeling 50/50 about the human relationship, it was a logical, well informed 50/fifty rather than a previously confused state.

Over time that fifty/50 lead to a big STAY, with the help of other books like Hold Me Tight past Dr Johnson, Dealbreakers past Sharon Marshall and vii Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman.

May 21, 2014 Chris rated information technology did not like it

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My wife and I take been married six years and have had marital troubles for nearly a year. However, we are taking very concrete steps to effort to address them and we're making good progress. We're learning a lot more about ourselves and each other, nearly personalities and temperaments and what influences them. Now we are better able to capeesh how those factors manifest in our day-to-day behavior. It is difficult work, but we both concur that in the terminate it's wor

I'm going to quote a top Amazon review:

My wife and I have been married six years and have had marital troubles for most a yr. However, we are taking very concrete steps to try to accost them and nosotros're making good progress. We're learning a lot more about ourselves and each other, about personalities and temperaments and what influences them. Now nosotros are better able to capeesh how those factors manifest in our 24-hour interval-to-day behavior. It is difficult piece of work, but we both agree that in the stop information technology's worth it – regardless of the eventual outcome of our wedlock. This book was recommended to me by a person that I have generally known to have good sentence, and then I took a look. I can say without a doubt that if I had read this book a twelvemonth ago, my wife and I would now be divorced and that conclusion would take been the biggest mistake of our lives. Several of the so-called guidelines pointed to behavior on my wife'due south part AND others on my ain office that would have acquired each of us to conclude that we would be more than happy if nosotros left than stayed. The method of decision making suggested past this volume is bereft of the kind of hard work it actually takes to evaluate the future of a relationship and the behavior of people in relationships. It fails to explore personality types – a cornerstone to understanding why your partner may behave the way he or she behaves. Information technology besides assumes the trouble MUST reside within your partner, non within yourself. In my human relationship, the problem was fourscore% of my own cosmos. Merely, through self-evaluation and written report nosotros have been able to LEARN more about our ain personalities and then that now we can better capeesh our differences and give our honey for one another a take a chance to flourish. Unfortunately, this book rests on the premise that people are inflexible, cannot observe themselves and that their mates cannot change themselves, and therefore, whatsoever you lot've got is as good equally it will get. I disagree and urge anyone who reads this to use great circumspection. Mira Kirshenbaum has attempted to boil life and relationships into a simplicity that belittles the capacity of humans to dear and change.

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Jul 22, 2007 Stephanie Michaud rated information technology actually liked it

Recommends it for: mid life crisis ladies

Insightful. Crazy. Depressing. Hopeful. Clarity. Shocking. Disruptive. A actually good read for people actually fucked-up in their wedlock.

Nov 02, 2014 Wendy rated it it was amazing

When you lot are ambivalent well-nigh a human relationship, you close down and spend all your energy defending your heart. Reading this book made me realize that I have an amazing partner in life. The questions make you lot analyze those things that make a human relationship strong -- despite the curveballs that life throws us. I call up this is a skillful read for people thinking about marrying and really helpful for those of us who temporarily forgot what fabricated their hearts sing in the commencement place. The best part I think is When you are clashing about a relationship, you close downwards and spend all your energy defending your heart. Reading this book made me realize that I take an amazing partner in life. The questions make y'all clarify those things that make a relationship strong -- despite the curveballs that life throws usa. I think this is a good read for people thinking most marrying and really helpful for those of the states who temporarily forgot what made their hearts sing in the first place. The all-time office I think is that you come up abroad from the book feeling peace. The writer is unapologetically direct. She never tells you what to exercise; rather she shares years of insight and research which tell you lot how other people who answered the questions felt when they made their decisions. It's really center-opening and relationship saving. (If y'all end something that is at its core -- unsustainable -- information technology is kinder for all to stop information technology.) ...more

Sep 23, 2007 Cheryl rated it really liked information technology

Recommends it for: folks considering ending relationships

I liked the cut & dried, black & white approach to this book. Writer is forward near what she thinks is wrong or right in a relationship. Sometimes, I want someone to merely tell me, strait up, "hey, that stinks" or "hey, that'due south ok". I won't always agree, only I wnt feedback. Somehow, the way she portrays sure couples, she is pretty specific when she says, "this couple probably shouldn't exist together" and "this one should". That doesn't hateful it'south piece of cake for me, the reader, to really decide whether I liked the cut & dried, black & white arroyo to this book. Author is forward well-nigh what she thinks is incorrect or right in a relationship. Sometimes, I desire someone to just tell me, strait upwardly, "hey, that stinks" or "hey, that's ok". I won't e'er hold, merely I wnt feedback. Somehow, the manner she portrays certain couples, she is pretty specific when she says, "this couple probably shouldn't be together" and "this one should". That doesn't hateful it'south piece of cake for me, the reader, to really make up one's mind whether 1) I fully concord with her judgements, and two) whether my relationship falls into one category or another, anyhow. But she does provide tools to help the reader evaluate their relationships, and her approach is very helpful. ...more

Apr 08, 2020 Cade rated it information technology was ok

I take to say I'm fairly disappointed given the largely glowing reviews this volume tends to receive. This edition is now going on twenty-three years quondam having been published in 1997 [per what I'g seeing the beginning edition was in 1996], and unlike some self-help books that are just as old or much older, I largely do not experience similar it's aged very well. Twenty-three years might not seem like a lot for the field of interpersonal relationships, only insofar as this book is concerned it definitely makes I have to say I'm fairly disappointed given the largely glowing reviews this book tends to receive. This edition is now going on xx-iii years old having been published in 1997 [per what I'm seeing the first edition was in 1996], and unlike some self-assist books that are just as quondam or much older, I largely practise non feel like it'due south aged very well. Twenty-three years might not seem like a lot for the field of interpersonal relationships, but insofar as this book is concerned it definitely makes a lot of the content feel pretty dated. That'southward not to say that there isn't value here. What this book is skillful at is offer upwardly some questions that will probably make you think about some aspects of things yous hadn't previously considered. However, as a so-called "diagnostic manual" I have doubts you lot're going to find the clarity Kirshenbaum outright assumes y'all will take by the end of the book. While I wouldn't expect any single book to give forthright answers about such in-depth topics as these, this book grossly oversold itself as some be-all-cease-all to the specific question information technology focuses all of its pages on. It too holds itself out every bit beingness partner neutral, but having read the whole book, it'south clearly (to me) intended for a female person audience. That isn't a bad thing, but it does brand the book feel a bit dishonest when it tries to bridge this gap in a few places by adding in "her" or "hers," but then immediately reverts to feeling well.. very much like a 1990s self-help book for eye class or above women. That'due south actually i of my biggest gripes with the volume, despite Kirshenbaum'south constant references to her lengthy experience (which I do not question, for the record) this book seems to bring upward issues of race and wealth just plenty to pretend every bit though it dealt with them, then proceeds to ignore them entirely. The simple fact is that lot of people won't take access to the safety nets this book presumes they will have, and every bit such I don't call up I'd really recommend this book to a broad audience given its sensitive bailiwick matter. It's a real shame, parts of the book are quite good, but on the whole even these good parts don't merit annihilation in a higher place a "it was ok" (two stars) on the Goodreads rating scale. ...more than

May 30, 2011 Gypsy rated information technology really liked information technology

This book was sitting in my queue for over v years, and I FINALLY got to read information technology. All I tin can say is that if I had read the book when I first discovered information technology and went through all the diagnostic questions laid out in the book, then I would have identified myself as existence in the 'human relationship ambivalence" state a long time ago and did something about information technology a lot sooner.
The book goes through a series of diagnostic questions to provide clarity on whether an "iffy" human relationship is "too good to exit or too This volume was sitting in my queue for over 5 years, and I FINALLY got to read it. All I can say is that if I had read the volume when I first discovered information technology and went through all the diagnostic questions laid out in the volume, so I would have identified myself as being in the 'relationship ambiguity" state a long time ago and did something about information technology a lot sooner.
The book goes through a series of diagnostic questions to provide clarity on whether an "iffy" relationship is "too good to go out or too bad to stay", with enough of examples & example studies. At the terminate of the book, the author lists boosted resources (books) on how to move on if you chose to go; and another list on how to strengthen your human relationship & ameliorate communication if you chose to stay.

This is not a book for you if you lot're looking for a quick answer or some kind of an external approval to go out of your electric current human relationship. In fact, I thought the book was a scrap long winded & wishy-washy initially. But do it right, get through the 30+ diagnostic questions and think information technology through, at least you lot'll finally get clarity/closure by the cease of the book on how you should go on with your relationship.

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Aug 09, 2007 Lisa rated it it was amazing  · review of another edition

Recommends information technology for: women who need the courage to movement out and move on

i take recommended this to several women STUCK in relationships that were exactly that: also proficient to exit (translated "dont wanna be alone") and too bad to stay (unhealthy or violent or going nowhere). in every case, they found the backbone to exit forging a new life and oft finding new, true love - never once looking back. i accept recommended this to several women STUCK in relationships that were exactly that: too good to get out (translated "dont wanna be solitary") and too bad to stay (unhealthy or violent or going nowhere). in every case, they found the courage to leave forging a new life and often finding new, truthful love - never once looking back. ...more

This an fantabulous guide for people who are stuck thinking well-nigh leaving their human relationship but haven't been able to come to any conclusions. Mira throws out the 'balancing calibration' arroyo to decision-making (how do you counterbalance upwardly hundreds of pieces of ever-changing information anyway?) in favour of a clinical 'diagnostic' approach. This is a genius motility because information technology ways that just one critical piece of information can effectively make the decision for y'all. Which makes a lot of sense – if your husba This an excellent guide for people who are stuck thinking about leaving their relationship merely haven't been able to come up to whatsoever conclusions. Mira throws out the 'balancing calibration' approach to controlling (how do you counterbalance upward hundreds of pieces of e'er-changing information anyway?) in favour of a clinical 'diagnostic' approach. This is a genius move because information technology means that merely i critical slice of data can finer make the decision for you. Which makes a lot of sense – if your husband is the best partner in the earth EXCEPT when he beats yous black and blue, it doesn't affair how corking he is at other times, yous just demand to know that there is recurrent physical violence to know that things probably won't get better and you should leave. There are 30+ pieces of potentially revelatory data here, as Mira asks the important, deal-breaking questions one by one (all of which I wrote down for myself considering they are accented gilded). She also does this in a very effective and like shooting fish in a barrel-to-read way and yous can tell she knows her stuff. For a select group of people suffering relationship ambiguity, this really could be life-changing stuff. And it was a darn skilful read too! ...more

Mar 23, 2008 Christine rated it information technology was astonishing

Recommends it for: anyone with relationship issues

Recommended to Christine by: rory

this books is a really adept guide for those trying to figure out if they should stay or go in a relationship... information technology starts you out with a scenario, followed by question(s) which build upon each other and lead up to your respond: stay or go. it is a combination of self-help and workbook. if you're i of those that go along falling into the "gray" of the relationship, this volume will help you proceed things "black and white", which volition help you be more objective when evaluating what tin exist a major life de this books is a really good guide for those trying to figure out if they should stay or go in a relationship... it starts you out with a scenario, followed by question(s) which build upon each other and lead upward to your respond: stay or go. it is a combination of self-assistance and workbook. if you're one of those that keep falling into the "gray" of the human relationship, this book will assist y'all keep things "black and white", which will help you be more objective when evaluating what tin be a major life determination. a good book - read it. ...more

November 24, 2009 Lynn rated it liked information technology

This book was amazing in helping me make up one's mind what to do about the ambivalent human relationship I have been in for over 5 years!!!!
If you've been juggling whether to stay in a relationship or leave, seriously....pick this book up & give it a whirl!
Information technology defines problems in a diagnostic fashion instead of weighing pros & cons. This volume was amazing in helping me determine what to do about the ambivalent human relationship I have been in for over 5 years!!!!
If you've been juggling whether to stay in a relationship or get out, seriously....choice this book upwardly & requite it a whirl!
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This volume helped me move out of ambivalence and see that my marriage was the source of my unhappiness I recommend this to anyone who feels stuck and unhappy in a relationship.

Sep 15, 2016 Dian Bentinck rated it it was astonishing

I found the volume to be well written and easy to read. The information was presented objectively. Diagnostic questions, examples, real life stories helped put things in context. I recollect the book is useful regardless of your relationship status. It helps identify positive and necessary aspects of relationships also as thoughts on how they can be improved and warning signs. The author seems to have a plethora of relevant experience that made the book very credible.

Mar 09, 2008 Jennifer rated it it was amazing

Helped propel me out of a bad relationship - should exist required reading for anyone on the fence well-nigh a personal relationship, romantic or otherwise.

I love this book, it helped me to put perspective in my life and to evaluate the relationships I allow.

Disclosure: I doubted whether to add this volume to my Goodreads drove, every bit the subject could be considered highly personal. However, reading books nigh relationships, or processes, doesn't necessarily hateful that something is.. expert... or.. bad... or... fifty-fifty happening. Reading books about zombies: does that make me want to eat human flesh?

Relationships never 'but' exist. Both partners nees to put in sufficient time, attention and attempt to make it piece of work, or to keep on making information technology work. This volume

Disclosure: I doubted whether to add together this book to my Goodreads drove, as the discipline could exist considered highly personal. However, reading books about relationships, or processes, doesn't necessarily mean that something is.. expert... or.. bad... or... even happening. Reading books about zombies: does that make me desire to eat homo flesh?

Relationships never 'just' be. Both partners nees to put in sufficient time, attention and effort to brand it work, or to keep on making it piece of work. This book can help with that, as it offers practical questions with regards to the status of the human relationship. In that regard each human relationship tin benefit from the book, 'skillful' or 'bad'.

The book itself is nicely ready, although some parts get a flake repetitive over time. I have the feeling that some paragraphs hither and there could exist edited out, without sacrificing the message or style. But that's highly personal...
Something else personal: I found the Dutch translation mediocre at best. Sentences weren't fluent, and at times I wanted to grab the original English version.

All in all, I would (nonetheless) recommend this volume equally 'discussion starter' for partners in whatever land of their relationship. Similar to feelings, the truth can never be incorrect...

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This book was groovy. I really enjoyed learning about factors of intimate interpersonal relationships that make a relationship to proficient to get out, or as well bad to stay in. I was only reading it out of curiosity as I am not in a human relationship that I am ambivalent most however it was fascinating applying some of the concepts to by relationships and understanding behaviours and differing perspectives that could could exist deal breakers. I would recommend strongly to those questioning their relationship This volume was corking. I really enjoyed learning nigh factors of intimate interpersonal relationships that brand a relationship to practiced to go out, or too bad to stay in. I was just reading it out of curiosity as I am not in a human relationship that I am ambivalent about however it was fascinating applying some of the concepts to past relationships and understanding behaviours and differing perspectives that could could be deal breakers. I would recommend strongly to those questioning their relationship only also to those who are interested in improving their role in their current relationship. ...more

This book changed my life and helped me accept a clear expect at my relationship with my ex. I would highly recommend it for anyone who is clashing about a relationship.

Apr 12, 2022 Rebecca rated it actually liked it

I appreciated how orderly of an approach this provides to a circuitous topic. I've used the questions with clients and they opened up amazing, illuminating conversations. I appreciated how orderly of an approach this provides to a circuitous topic. I've used the questions with clients and they opened upwardly astonishing, illuminating conversations. ...more than

It can be the hardest conclusion you lot will e'er make, trying to decide if you stay with someone who yous love, but tin do really hurtful things. This book helped me figure out what I needed to do. Cheers Mira, for your insight and candor.

December 13, 2021 Andrea rated it really liked it

Packed with peachy info; found myself taking screenshots throughout. However, I finished this still with human relationship ambivalence, unfortunately. (married to a mostly-wonderful guy but met my indisputable "soulmate") Packed with great info; found myself taking screenshots throughout. However, I finished this notwithstanding with human relationship ambiguity, unfortunately. (married to a more often than not-wonderful guy but met my indisputable "soulmate") ...more

Sep 12, 2021 Denae rated it it was amazing

Turns out it was the latter. This book is really well written and v helpful though.

Sep xxx, 2016 C rated it it was amazing

A friend talked about this and I decided to have a wait. It'southward an excellent volume that is intended to be a relationship diagnostic tool. She breaks down issues into some central deal breakers (an obvious ane: physical corruption - written for people who are notwithstanding in a human relationship despite physical abuse), and then continues to intermission it downwards to more than subtle things that erode a relationship over time (a partner struggling for power/command, someone who refuses to accost difficult topics, etc.). The tone is p A friend talked most this and I decided to accept a look. It'due south an fantabulous volume that is intended to exist a relationship diagnostic tool. She breaks downwards problems into some key deal breakers (an obvious one: physical abuse - written for people who are even so in a human relationship despite physical abuse), then continues to pause information technology downwards to more subtle things that erode a relationship over time (a partner struggling for power/control, someone who refuses to address difficult topics, etc.). The tone is businesslike, the author is experienced in her field. While there's null harsh about information technology at all, it would not be what I'd call "soft" self-aid where there'southward a lot of talk about positive/negative free energy and that sort of thing. It was more than like reading a well written Jeep troubleshooting transmission for a clunk in the engine you haven't been able to pin down.

I'm unremarkably a bit wishy washy on self-assistance books and flip through or bail out nearly half way - this ane I read cover to cover. I really liked her insight into issues I would have never thought about and I liked the applied language. I think it's appropriate both for a couple struggling with the decision to stay together, or for one who wants to take their human relationship in for a tuneup and make sure all is in expert working order. For me, I felt some points are groovy talking points, others were heart opening... as in "I hadn't admitted to myself I was doing that."

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A piffling lingo-cutesy in places, could use amend indexing, and falls short of the "step-by-stride" promise in the subtitle (although that looked like an overpromise to begin with). And I recognize at that place'south a danger in codifying something similar this, both from the standpoint of the person who breezes through their unexamined life and someone too broken to recognize hazards to their physical safety. But for the overthinkers and self-flagellators, parts of this book are a boon, even post-relationship. A little lingo-cutesy in places, could use improve indexing, and falls short of the "pace-past-stride" promise in the subtitle (although that looked like an overpromise to begin with). And I recognize in that location'southward a danger in codifying something like this, both from the standpoint of the person who breezes through their unexamined life and someone also cleaved to recognize hazards to their physical condom. Merely for the overthinkers and self-flagellators, parts of this book are a benefaction, even mail-relationship. ...more

Feb 27, 2009 Joanna rated it information technology was ok

given to me by a boyfriend therapist about relationsip ambivalence. the questions are probably the about helpful. given that its the get-go book I've seen on a subject that seems to take piddling written, its probably the best out there (from what I know) but it seems to lack some depth - I was hoping it might invite exploration of the underlying emotions/desires/longings. That being said, it's probably quite helpful for the 'decision-making', cerebral view. given to me by a fellow therapist almost relationsip ambivalence. the questions are probably the about helpful. given that its the get-go book I've seen on a subject that seems to take little written, its probably the best out there (from what I know) but it seems to lack some depth - I was hoping it might invite exploration of the underlying emotions/desires/longings. That being said, it'south probably quite helpful for the 'decision-making', cerebral view. ...more

Reminding us to avoid the trap of faux dichotomies (cavalcade A good, cavalcade B bad, whichever listing is longer dictates what yous should do), this volume offers a way to examine a human relationship (whatsoever relationship, not just with your Due south.O.!) and place patterns that are likely to result in problems, and effigy out how many of the issues apply to your situation and to what caste.

A thoughtful and powerful manner to begin thinking about and fixing your relational patterns.

Really disappointing, in the end, equally the volume primarily focuses on request the reader to clarify the failings of their partner (rather than on the relationship), as a tool in deciding whether to stay or leave.

Intoxicating, notwithstanding, every bit it leads the reader down the path of decision, in a management that may ultimately be not in their ain best involvement, notwithstanding that it feels expert to have a partner in angst.

Can't actually recommend it.

Really disappointing, in the end, as the book primarily focuses on asking the reader to clarify the failings of their partner (rather than on the relationship), equally a tool in deciding whether to stay or leave.

Intoxicating, however, equally information technology leads the reader down the path of decision, in a direction that may ultimately be not in their own best interest, notwithstanding that it feels good to take a partner in malaise.

Can't actually recommend it.

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